Salut, mes amours! / Hi, my loves!
Today, I’m talking about coffee and I’m talking about confidence! Two things I’m obsessed with and two things that have completely changed my life…I’ll explain.
We’ve all experienced a moment in our lives where our self-confidence has been completely shattered or a moment where we’ve been told we’re not as good as the girl or guy next door. Unfortunately, many of us spend a good portion of our lives believing that nonsense. Myself included.
My coffee + confidence journey started a few years ago when my fiancée and I started dating and I quickly realized that Latinos are SERIOUS about their coffee. I mean, they have a cup of coffee after almost every meal! At first, I thought it was a bit much but once I realized how a cup of ‘cafesito’ was an opportunity for family & friends to sit, talk and truly enjoy each other’s company I actually started looking forward to that cup of coffee.
Believe it or not, I started using that same ‘bonding method’ and incorporating it in my daily one-on-one time with myself. I start every day with a good cup of coffee, a lovely conversation with God and a few hype words to myself. Whether it’s “dang girl, you look great today!” or “I’m proud of you, you’re working hard”, I try my hardest not to seek self-validation from others. Confidence is not only about feeling good on the outside, it’s about feeling good on the inside. The time I get to spend with myself thinking about everything and nothing and a flavourful cup of coffee are moments I truly look forward to. I enjoy my own company.
I realized that not only have I developed a palette for really great coffee but I’ve made huge improvements in my self-love and confidence journey. Confidence is not cockiness, self-love is not hate towards others and putting yourself first does not mean you’re selfish.
I know that many of you can relate to this and I know that we’re all on our own path towards self-love and confidently leading a life we are proud of. If I can give anyone any advice on being confident and loving themselves, I would say this:
- Find what makes you happy, whether it’s big or small, and never let it go.
- Remind yourself that you were made 100% unique! You’re not supposed to look like anyone else so, stop comparing yourself to others.
- Take care of yourself physically and you’ll be rewarded mentally.
So, tell me…what do you do to boost your confidence? Any ‘hype’ words you’d like to share? 🙂
p.s. shout out to Cafe Cristal for serving me the BEST Vanilla Latte I’ve ever had.
Stay tuned for my next post!
Photo Credit: Lisa Provencal Photography.